FORGIVENESS IS THE BEST REVENGE
"An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth" is the strategy that shoots across our minds when the fire of revenge burns within us. Honourable judges, respected teachers and my dear friends. Today as I stand here, I would like to deviate from this often treaded path and say that forgiveness is the best revenge that we can inflict on our worst enemy.
Forgiveness is that quality in a human being that separates him from the animals. It is often born out of the depths of hopelessness, sorrow, loss and pain. It is freeing up and putting to better use the energy that was once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wound. Forgiveness is about starting over, and not about getting even, which can lead to an endless round of attack and counter-attack.
The present world is plagued with wars, kidnappings, terrorism and riots. While I certainly agree that we must try to prevent and restrain people from committing acts of violence, I am wary of world leaders urging people to join the war on terror. Where have we reached finally? Nowhere, but a dead end.
When there are no other options available to escape our anguish and to find peace of mind, we reach a point where forgiveness is our only choice for there is no resolution without forgiveness. To preach forgiveness is a simple task but to practice forgiveness in real life is the essence of life. Only a person with extreme humbleness imbibed within and a feeling of compassion is able to practice forgiveness! "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong," said Mahatma Gandhi. Perhaps it was this realization that made Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi, the Mahatma and an irrepressible icon to be emulated by several world leaders like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King.
Violence begets violence. It cannot undo the harm caused.
There is great value in every act of forgiveness. You can forgive yourself, you can forgive others, and you can forgive even when you don’t know exactly who to forgive, because forgiveness is not about who is to blame or who is at fault. It is about letting go, completely and permanently.
Forgiveness is recognizing the reality that what has happened has already happened, and that there’s no point in allowing it to dominate the rest of your life. Forgiveness refreshingly cleans the slate and enables you to step forward.
Are you contemplating revenge? You know that’s negative thinking getting the best of you. However, there is a way to seek revenge positively. How? Forget about them. Remember you. Working on a better you is more fulfilling than hanging on to contempt of others. Let it all go and hold on to your growth and kindness instead. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your positive energy will attract more positive results into your current reality.
Be unlike the person or situation that hurt you. Let go and grow past your pain. Carry on living well in a way that creates peace in your heart. The energy you would spend trying to get real revenge can be better spent creating an amazing future for yourself.
The bottom line is that the best revenge is happiness, because nothing drives your adversaries more insane than seeing a fresh smile on your face.
(c) Marc Chernoff